Too Excited

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By Mandy L. Hall, VP of Operations, Phoenix

Recently I saw a TV commercial that stood as a friendly reminder to get tested for STD’s and STI’s.  While I agree with the importance of getting tested, the way the writers went about it was nothing short of heartbreaking.  They chose several people to be the face of this commercial, including all demographics.  One part that stood out to me was a couple lying in bed and they said something along the lines of, “We meant to use a condom, we just got too excited”.  Whoever cleared this commercial is either completely ignorant on what was being spoken about, or they are callused enough to trick the American population, including our youth, that condoms make it safe to have sex with someone and not get a sexually transmitted disease or infection.  Let alone the fact that those infected support our medical community with over 14 BILLION dollars a year (and that was over a decade ago).  Here is an FAQ off the Food and Drug Administration’s website that I found particularly interesting.

“When used consistently and correctly, condoms are highly effective in preventing HIV. They are also effective at preventing sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) that are transmitted through bodily fluids, such as gonorrhea and chlamydia. However, they provide less protection against STDs spread through skin-to-skin contact like human papillomavirus (genital warts), genital herpes, and syphilis.
Although highly effective when used consistently and correctly, there is still a chance of getting HIV if you only use condoms, so adding other prevention methods can further reduce your risk.”

At what point do we get to in order to think, “Ya know, this person is just worth the risk.”, instead of, “I’m worth the wait!”?  Now, I’ve known people that have gotten married, knowing their future spouse had an incurable STD, and they were willing to take that on because of the lifelong commitment they were agreeing to.  They are a perfectly happy, healthy couple that I adore, but they both suffer the repercussions of one choice, made by only one of them, one night, years before they were married.  Even though they were never able to conceive, they have a beautiful family that only the Lord could have put together so perfectly.  

The problem is, our society as a whole lacks commitment on so many levels.  Vows mean very little these days and a pledge is merely words.  Kids are thrown out with the trash and sold off for parts.  There is a reason why today there are more than 35 STD’s and STI’s and in the 60’s there were only 2 major ones that were seen.  Coincidentally that is when the “Free Love” Movement took place and now our society is paying the ultimate price.  I can only imagine where we might be 10 years from now….. 

The mistake isn’t when you are too excited to use a condom, but when you get too excited, don’t use discretion or self control, and give a permanent piece of who you are away so earnestly or nonchalantly.  A piece that should belong to your future spouse and may, in fact, affect the rest of their lives if you choose unwisely.  News flash: It’s not just about you.  If you want to land a relationship where your counterpart thinks about you, considers how decisions will impact you, and chooses what is best in regards to you, don’t you need to do the same for them?  It’s time to raise your relational expectations.  YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT!

If you would like to have an honest conversation on what healthy relationships look like and what sexual integrity means for you, we would love to meet you right where you are at in life and walk the journey with you.

NOTE: This article is not intended for those who are in abusive relationships, or being forced to participate in sexual acts against their will.  That is a different topic for another time, but to you I say, “GET OUT”!  Please contact us immediately if you need help.